So many of my posts since I resurrected this blog have been autobiographical and that really wasn’t my intention. However, a lot has happened in the last 7 days and if there is one thing I understand about my brain, it’s that I only gain clarity when I write or have a long enough conversation about something to gain insight into the root or way forward. Bringing back the blog signalled a change, so I suppose it was inevitable that change would mean having things to process an

This post…it doesn’t come with the answers. It is the first post where I can offer no suggestions or explanations, no words of wisdom or experience that has brought clarity to the matter. I have been seeking those things since late teens, when a guy I’d fallen for told me that when I came into a room the sun came out; then in his next breath he said “but I only see you as a friend.” I grappled with getting over my ex-husband because for 4 years, he said he didn’t know what he

This weekend, the sun has finally made an appearance in my part of the word, and it has been joyous! It’s been a long, cold, lonely winter, and I have been longing for those golden rays for many weeks now. I was however recently reminded by a loved one that there are other ways to find happiness and that being the light in someone else’s darkness is a really good one. In honour of them and that hit of much needed vitamin D; I am compiling this list of simple ways to smile. Lo

Choose love for the person who cut you off this morning or the people on the bus who had a seat while you had to stand. You don’t know where they were going or what they were coming from. Maybe they needed it. Choose love for the shop assistant who gave you bad service or the work colleague who isn’t up to the job and leaves others to pick up the slack, taking home the same pay. People who are good at what they do are there because they choose to be, not because they have to

The very first post I made on this blog was for Valentines Cards even though then, like now, there is no-one I plan to buy one for. I thought it would be a nice touch to revisit the subject and see what's currently available. I am that sad person that could spend hours looking at cards and chuckling away at the funny ones. Valentine's Day is no different and even though I don't have a someone special, I am a big fan of love and an admirer of the people who make it work. God

Almost 10 years ago to the day, I started a blog with the same title as this post . I was coming out of a marriage that had also lasted almost a decade, and I was horrified at what dating looked like, having been with same man since the early noughties. It’s 2026, and things have only gotten worse for us single gals! I've pretty much maintained my single status, having met two different men within the first few years who both expressed a desire for children. I knew I didn’t w

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